"Sex: The Neglect and denial"

"Sex: The Neglect and denial"

I shared this a lot with few of my married brothers and would like to share just a little here. I learnt this from a book.

It surprises me that its news to most of them.
Basic, deep serious stuff. Hausman talk, i'd say
Almost most marital problem find its root cause back into the matters of the bedroom.
Couples can blame it on other matters but it all points back to the matters of the bedroom.
And it is the basic lack of knowledge of the design, function, ability, needs and limitations of the God created male and female human species that gives rise to it.

Uncover the taboo, "SEX" it is. There's more to it that couple's lack knowing or ignore to learn.
Man's satisfaction in sex is when he reaches his climax, while women's satisfaction is the attention she gets before, during and after sex, it fulfills her emotional need to feel wanted and cared for.

Two things can happen when both or one lacks this knowledge,
1) Man gets sex, reaches climax and neglects the woman on the bed while he gets on with other stuff. No cuddling and chatting after sex. The more this happens, the woman develop a feeling of being used, not needed, is of no value.
2) Woman denies sex to the man because she does not feel like having sex or is getting back at him for his lack of attention.

Case 1) affects the woman, and case 2) affects the man.
Man feels the need to have sex to reach climax. Woman need the man's attention. The basic natural principal :)
Rooted from this neglect or the denial, sprout out anger and arguments on other matters and as the neglect or denial continues it gets worse and it affects others close to them: offspring, families, friends etc...

Love, respect and understanding from both side with the willingness to LEARN and build the relationship should be the way forward.

Liklik tingting bilong mi tasol :)
just the tip of the iceberg :)

By WGuti / 2018