What is the root cause of Domestic Violence?

What is the root cause of Domestic Violence?

This is a question that needs serious answers to it. Others may have their perspective on it, but this is my take. And I will say, itt goes back to the matters of the bedroom. The place where the sacred ritual that forges the union is not understood well.

The needs of a man and of a woman in the bedroom is not the same. The lack of knwledge on these leads to so many complex issue and DV could be an effect.

here is a piece i shared in 2016...
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"Sex: The Neglect and denial"
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I shared this a lot with few of my married brothers and would like to share just a little here. I learnt this from a book.
It surprises me that its news to most of them.

Basic, deep serious stuff. Hausman talk, i'd say

Almost most marital problem find its root cause back into the matters of the bedroom.

Couples can blame it on other matters but it all points back to the matters of the bedroom.

And it is the basic lack of knowledge of the design, function, ability, needs and limitations of the God created male and female human species that gives rise to it.

Uncover the taboo, "SEX" it is. There's more to it that couple's lack knowing or ignore to learn.

Man's satisfaction in sex is when he reaches his climax, while women's satisfaction is the attention she gets before, during and after sex, it fulfills her emotional need to feel wanted and cared for.

Two things can happen when both or one lacks this knowledge,

1) Man gets sex, reaches climax and neglects the woman on the bed while he gets on with other stuff. No cuddling and chatting after sex. The more this happens, the woman develop a feeling of being used, not needed, is of no value.

2) Woman denies sex to the man because she does not feel like having sex (because women are naturally not always sexually active like men) or is getting back at him for his lack of attention.

Case 1) affects the woman, and case 2) affects the man.

Man feels the need to have sex to reach climax. Woman need the man's attention. The basic natural principal :)

Rooted from this neglect or the denial, sprout out anger and arguments on other matters and as the neglect or denial continues it gets worse and it affects others close to them: offspring, families, friends etc...

Love, respect and understanding from both side with the willingness to LEARN and build the relationship should be the way forward.

Liklik tingting bilong mi tasol :)

img source, Metro UK

By WGuti / 2020